I’m Not Angry, You’re Angry

Tonight I talked to my old neighbor who was friends with my ex and I. He was at our apartment all the time when we were newlyweds and was like her older brother. Today, he called her some names I’ve never called her and asked why I’m not angry at her.

It’s been three years. I’ve done a lot of healing and I’m happier now than I was during parts of my marriage. It doesn’t help me to hold anger at her for something she’s sorry about and a situation I couldn’t control. It’s also completely okay for him to be angry (and all the other people in my circle that feel the same). In fact, it makes me feel like I have people who have my back when things do, and did, get hard for me.

But I’m not wrong for not being angry. They’re not wrong for being angry. It’s a sign that I’m healing, or have healed in the right direction. I used to be very angry. And that is the victory in this long, drawn-out battle.